“Doing him good” (from yesterday’s Scripture passage) describes the intentional positive actions of the wife on the behalf of her husband. “Not doing evil” describes the intentional lack of negative action of the wife toward her husband, regardless of his selfishness.
Do you find any exceptions to either actions in these verses or anywhere else in the 1,189 chapters and 31,173 verses in the Bible, like “if he deserves it” or “when he obeys God”?
You already know the answer. Not one exception. Never. Truly loving (for the husband to the wife) and helping (for the wife to the husband) is absolutely and always unconditional.
So, what’s the result in the life of the husband whose wife fulfills the biblical role of helper in marriage? I’ll never forget the day when I unexpectedly heard the answer to that question. During a weekend marriage retreat where Darlene and I were speaking, a woman came up to me at the break and said, “Do you want to know the result of being a godly helper? Look right in the middle of Proverbs 31 and read verse 23 and you’ll find God’s answer! It’s the climax:
“When a wife fulfills her role as the husband’s helper, then the husband becomes respected and even famous!”
She smiled and then waited patiently for me to find it in my Bible.
As you can imagine, I couldn’t wait to read verse 23, because I had no idea what she was referring to until I read the verse out loud:
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land (nkjv).
She continued excitedly, “The most honored position in the Old Testament was to be invited to sit among the elders at the central city gate to dispense wisdom and direction for those who dwelled within that city. When a married woman truly embraces her God-given role within marriage, her man is going to be become far more than he ever could by himself. He’ll become respected in the community for his character and what he has achieved in life.”
She once again smiled, and as she walked away said, “My man sits at the city gates because of my help. He couldn’t help but become an elder in the land with me as his helper!”
So, how do I know what kind of wife I am? Just spend some time with my glorious husband. How does he know what kind of husband he is? Just spend some time with my husband—and hopefully look for the nearby gates.
What else is in the power of the Wife’s Prayer Mantle? Let’s open the city gates and find out.
Turning Wounds Into Wisdom, beloveds,
You Him and Her 💜
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